Date: January 21, 2025 (T).
References:
Proverbs 31:10-31; Ephesians 5:22-33; Proverbs 5; Proverbs 7; Colossians 3:18; 1 Peter 3:1-6; Titus 2:3-5; Leviticus 18; Luke 12:35-38, Philippians 2:3,4; Hosea 2:20-20.
A virtuous woman
A virtuous wife – a woman who is a G-D fearing, G-D honoring, truthful, honest, loving, kind, strong, pleasant, humble, innocent, pure, loyal, faithful, without deceit, peaceable, gentle, unaggressive, friendly, submissive, obedient woman, who can find? – (SEE Proverbs 31:10-12,30; Ruth 3:9,11).
Truly! Who can find? If any man has truly found such a virtuous wife, he is truly blessed in life, by G-D the FATHER the FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRIT (SEE Proverbs 19:14).
Praise the L-RD!
If a man finds a wife, he has found favor with G-D, the Bible teaches (SEE Proverbs 18:22). But if the woman is a troublemaker (quarrelsome, contentious), then she is not a good wife to her husband (SEE Proverbs 27:15,16; Proverbs 19:13b; Proverbs 21:9,19). If she is not a prudent wife, but disobeys him, fights with him, does not submit to him, but disrespects him, then she is not a wife from the L-RD. She is an unbeliever.
A good Christian woman and a good Christian wife
A good Christian woman is one who is devoted to G-D the FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRIT, all the days of her life. Her aim in life is to be pure, holy and righteous in G-Ds sight, to live a life pleasing to G-D her FATHER, whether people around her wish to follow CHRIST or not. She sets a good example for others to look up to. She is a light of CHRIST and salt to those around her, and her life brings a soothing aroma to the L-RD (SEE Matthew 5:13-16; 2 Corinthians 2:15).
A good Christian woman is one who is faithful and loyal to G-D, His Word and His laws all the days of her life. She fears the L-RD, loves Him deeply, above all things in life and wants to love, obey and serve Him faithfully, loyally, all the days of her life. She will never betray or abandon the L-RD, whatever comes her way, all the days of her life. She will never compromise on G-Ds Words and fall into temptations to sin and go away from the L-RD her G-D.
A good Christian woman is one who is not selfish and greedy in life for money, or possessions, or is filled with lust in her heart and mind, that will affect her good thinking (her moral compass) and take her away from the L-RD, from His good, pure, holy and upright ways, all the days of her life.
A good Christian woman flees sexual immorality and runs away from sexual temptation and all other forms of sin, all the days of her life. She will walk in the fear of the L-RD and submit to Him and His Word, always. She will be a strong woman (emotionally, spiritually), a hard-working woman, never lazy or sloppy in her work, never to give up and call it quits until the L-RD tells her to stop. She is a kind woman, sincere woman, a gentle woman, a generous woman, a determined woman set to accomplish all that the L-RD tells her to do for Him, His Kingdom, His Church, her family, all the days of her life.
A good Christian woman is a faithful woman to G-D the FATHER, His Word, His truth, His laws always, all the days of her life. She will always stand up for the ways of the L-RD G-D MOST HIGH, proclaiming the Word of G-D boldly, whenever she can, and will never deviate or compromise herself from the correct, narrow path of G-Ds ways, that leads to Heaven, all the days of her life (SEE Matthew 7:13,14).
A good Christian woman is one who is filled with the H-LY SPIRIT and loves JESUS will all her heart, soul, strength and mind, all the days of her life. She reads her Bible every day, prays to JESUS every day, sings praises to JESUS and worships Him every day. She will always seek G-Ds guidance and His will on all things related to her life. She is not impulsive but put all her faith in JESUS and trusts in the L-RD her G-D to provide for all her needs. A good Christian woman, when she becomes a wife to her husband, she will humble to be an obedient wife to her husband, all the days of her life. She will not disobey her husband and displease G-D. Obedience by the wife to her husband is the will of G-D in marriage. Above all things in life, a good Christian wife obeys JESUS at all costs – even in times of trouble, is patient and enduring through trials, and never gives up on the love and hope found in JESUS CHRIST, all the days of her life.
A good Christian wife is the one who does everything a good Christian woman does and more.
A good Christian wife loves the L-RD her G-D and then her husband, all the days of her life.
A good Christian wife obeys the L-RD her G-D and then her husband, all the days of her life.
A good Christian wife serves the L-RD her G-D and then her husband, all the days of her life.
A good Christian wife respects the L-RD her G-D and then her husband, all the days of her life.
A good Christian wife submits to the L-RD her G-D and then her husband, all the days of her life.
A good Christian wife trusts in the L-RD her G-D and then her husband, all the days of her life.
A good Christian wife loves the L-RD her G-D and prioritizes Him, His Word and never neglects to please the L-RD, all the days of her life. She lovingly takes care of all things related to the L-RD, and then her husband and their family, in this order, all the days of her life. She will never quit her marriage, ask for divorce or separation, or run away, or reject her husband’s love or betray him or abandon her husband and their family, all the days of her life. She will be a loving, faithful and loyal wife to her husband, all the days of her life. The only exception for her to leave her marriage is in case of marital infidelity by her husband, if her husband betrays her and leaves her.
Even if her husband foolishly leaves her or betrays her, she will still seek the L-RD and never live in sin or be tempted to live in sin like her husband, just because her husband did wickedness in the sight of the L-RD. She will never break her relationship with the L-RD, even when heartbroken. She will never take revenge on her husband or anyone else, or be bitter toward anyone or hate anyone, all the days of her life. She will forgive her former husband and trust in the L-RD to provide for her and move on in life and start afresh.
Who is such a woman?
Is there a woman as this, living in the world today? Does a good, virtuous, G-D fearing Christian woman really exist, or is this only a fantasy to think about?
In previous generations (prior to the millennial generation), good, virtuous, G-D fearing, Christian women were abundant in conservative Christian communities around the world. But in the 21st century, when the love of many have grown cold, and many Christians (men and women) feign piety toward G-D, but have no real form of godliness, self-discipline, self-control over their bodies, no holiness, no purity, unrighteousness in their selfish ways, filled with greed and love of money – can a good, virtuous, G-D fearing Christian woman as such still be truly found on earth today? Or it is too late for all the good, G-D fearing, Christian men who seek a good, virtuous, G-D fearing Christian wife to give up and forget seeking to ever find a good, virtuous, G-D fearing wife and having a family with her?
Only G-D knows the heart of every man, and every woman on earth.
G-D have mercy on us!
We truly are living in the End Times.
The world is changing fast, and the majority of the world is enjoying living in the fleeting pleasures of sinful life, even in the conservative Christian communities around the world. Very few Christians seem to care to love, obey, serve and follow the L-RD, His ways and His laws, as said in the Bible.
What a tragedy.
G-D have mercy on us.
Unbiblical marriage
The Bible teaches all Christians to be not unequally yoked (be married) with an unbeliever. I.e., a Christian should never marry a non-Christian person – man for woman and woman for a man. Such a marriage will hurt in the long run, and the relationship and get ruined if the non-Christian spouse does not seek CHRIST and become a Christian, to follow CHRIST all the days of his/her life (SEE 2 Corinthians 6:14-18).
A Christian man or a Christian woman must never fall in love with or marry a person from another religion or someone who is agnostic or an atheist. Every Christian should marry another Christian from the same faith. If they don’t, the marriage will most likely fail, or the Christian man or woman will go away from G-D and His teachings in the Bible and be hurt spiritually in the long term. And possibly, the Christian spouse can lose their faith in G-D completely and miss out on Heaven, if they go after false gods of their spouse.
Let’s look at three examples of three types of women in the modern-day world (21st century):
I. Victoria Beckham
A wife, a mother to four children, has only one husband – never divorced, no rumors of cheating on her husband, a successful businesswoman.
She is well pleasing in G-Ds sight as an honorable woman in the sight of G-D, and comparable to the woman of Proverbs 31:10-31.
II. A “desperate” housewife – a character based on the US TV show “Desperate Housewives”
A woman who is a housewife/homemaker must never be filled with lust and cheat on her husband while he is away at work or away from home, with some other man behind his back.
Such a woman is an unvirtuous, ungodly, selfish woman.
Such a woman is in no way a good Christian woman or a good Christian wife by G-Ds standards, according to the Bible.
A housewife should never desire to be with any other man other than her own husband. If she commits adultery, it is harlotry (prostitution) in the sight of G-D and it is sinful. G-D teaches us in the Bible, adultery, prostitution, fornication, promiscuity all pollutes the land with sexual immorality and G-D hates it. One of the reasons He drove away the nations of Israel and Judah from the land of Canaan in the Old Testament, into exile, is because of their sexual immorality. And the land “spewed” them out, the Bible teaches (SEE Leviticus 18:24-30).
Faithfulness (fidelity) and loyalty to G-D the FATHER always, above all things in life
Every woman, no matter the age, must remain a faithful, loyal woman to G-D the FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRIT, all the days of her life, before marriage, during marriage and after marriage. She must not defile herself and dishonor G-D in her life through sexual immorality all the days of her life, before marriage, during marriage and after marriage. Such a woman is truly honorable in G-Ds sight. Such is the expectation of G-D from every woman on earth.
Every woman who does not do this for G-D in her life is living in sexual sin against G-Ds laws. She must repent immediately, seek forgiveness from G-D MOST HIGH and sin no more, for the rest of her life. Then, she will be found honorable in G-Ds sight.
G-D sees every act done by man on earth and records them in His book. Every act about our life is recorded in G-Ds book (Psalms 139:16; Hebrews 4:13; Psalms 33:13-15). Nothing is hidden from His sight. And G-D will judge the sinner, and punish the sinner, in this life or the next life, be it a man or a woman, for committing sexually immorality before Him, before marriage, during marriage or after marriage, if they live in sexual sin against G-D MOST HIGH (SEE Romans 2:5-16). No man or woman must ever forget, they are the temple of the H-LY GHOST and any sexual sin they commit in their life, they commit against themselves and hurt the H-LY SPIRIT who lives in them, and this is punishable in G-Ds sight (SEE 1 Corinthians 6:18-20).
III. Sharon Stone
An unmarried, currently single, woman. She’s been divorced twice, has had multiple sexual partners and is a mother of three adopted children. She is a career-oriented woman, who has used her sex appeal, beauty, charm (all forms of manipulation), to achieve fame, success and prosperity in life.
This is not the woman the G-D expects Christian women to become like or emulate.
Any woman who lives as such is an affront to G-D, His Word and His laws and she must stop immediately of her sinful life, seek G-D from the bottom of her heart, ask for forgiveness for all her sins from G-D her FATHER and become a true Christian in G-Ds sight, be filled with the H-LY SPIRIT and live to sin no more, for the rest of her life. This is what any woman living in sexual sin must do immediately.
The only person every human on earth should imitate is JESUS CHRIST. For He alone is perfect, and we are to desire to be perfect and holy like Him. We are to seek perfection, holiness and purity all the days of our lives, in all matters of our lives, no matter who stands against us (including denying our own pride, greed, lust, selfish ambitions, treachery), all to bring glory, honor, praise and thanks to G-D the FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRIT, all the days of our lives on earth.
If we desire to live such lives, the H-LY SPIRIT will help us, when we submit and surrender our body, mind, soul and spirit to JESUS and listen to His voice, spoken through the power of the H-LY SPIRIT Who lives in us, and obey what He says to do, for the rest of our lives, daily, without fail. This is well pleasing to G-D the FATHER.
Sex appeal and lust
There are many types of other women that are not included in this illustration who use their bodies, their beauty, to sell merchandise, including themselves (online and offline) and parade themselves shamelessly. They promote sensuality, lust, greed, and commit acts of sexual immorality, using multiple sexual partners and pollute the land they live in with sexual sin. Such lifestyles are an abomination in the sight of G-D the FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRIT. The sanctity of the land is lost, and so, to bring the land back to G-Ds acceptance, to be without sin and shedding of innocent blood, G-D will cleanse the land thoroughly through punishment (usually destruction of nature and habitation) or warfare.
There are many women who are living immodest lives. They promote promiscuity, fornication, adultery (cheating on their husbands), and all this is sin according to the Bible. No Christian man should associate with such women or be taken captive by their lustrous beauty. It is an open grave and the man’s soul will perish in hell, the Bible teaches, unless he repents of his sins (SEE Proverbs 5; Proverbs 7; 1 Corinthians 7; Romans 7:1-5; Mark 10:1-12).
Older women (or mothers) must teach the younger woman (their daughters, their grandchildren) to be good, obedient Christian wives to their Christian husbands (SEE Titus 2:3-5). This is for the good of the family. This is good for society. This is how the wife can honor G-D in her marriage. This is well pleasing and acceptable in G-Ds sight.
An honorable woman in G-Ds sight
A woman must always be dignified in the sight of G-D MOST HIGH, just as much as she should dress modestly in public (SEE 1 Corinthians 11:1-15). When a woman fails to dress modestly in publicly, then she is not found honorable in G-Ds sight. As much as women’s right are fair to request and have, women have a role in the Bible and men have a role in the Bible and the genders cannot crisscross and blur the gender differences to say, man is equal to woman and woman is equal to man in society. It is true and right that we are all one in the sight of G-D our FATHER (SEE Galatians 3:28), whether it be a man or a woman, but G-D expects every man to behave in a certain way (and not in an effeminate, timid or cowardly way – SEE 1 Corinthians 6:9) and G-D expects every woman not to assume the role of a man and be the leader of a household, boss the man around, or be the head of man or the lead pastor of a church or a Christian ministry. These are not okay in G-Ds sight.
Biblically defined gender roles
It is hurtful for a man to be disrespected by any woman – in public or privately. Whether the disrespect came from his own wife, his own daughter, his own mother, or some woman outside his home, the disrespectful words, behavior or attitude was not okay in the man’s sight, which made him feel disrespected. In the same way, if a man behaves inappropriately with any woman in a provocative, sexual manner, it is bringing dishonor upon the woman. And this is not acceptable in G-Ds sight.
It is also very dishonorable for a woman to be sexually flirtatious with men around her – at school, at work, at church, at a social event, online, with her male friends. The woman must stop herself from behaving as such.
Both men and women know what inappropriate behavior is, or how intrusive sexual attitude toward them can be. It breaks the trust in them with the outside world. Neither man or woman wants to be fondled, groped, manhandled by a stranger privately or in public. And so, the Bible, before our time, has already written down the ground rules for us to follow, so that we don’t get into situations like such in our lives, and be offended at someone for any acting appropriately with us. Or worse, someone gets abused in the wrong hands – be it a child, woman or man.
Lukewarm Christians make lukewarm churches
If the gender lines between men and woman are crossed and men behave as women and women behave as men, it is a disgrace in the sight of G-D, the Bible teaches us (SEE Job 38:1-3; Luke 12:35-38). It is breaking the laws of G-D setup for all mankind. Man and woman must honor G-D in their bodies, both physically, spiritually, emotionally. If a man is submitting to the woman and the woman is the head of the man, this will contravene the Word of G-D. And if we contravene the rules of the Bible, one by one, soon enough, people will break other laws of G-D and think it is acceptable to do so, and that’s how the Church of G-D goes away from the true teachings of CHRIST and makes up their own doctrines, tingling to their ears (2 Timothy 4:2-4), and the Church of G-D, the people of G-D, become lukewarm Christians. And G-D doesn’t like or want lukewarm Christians (SEE Revelation 3:14-16). G-D wants you to be on fire (zeal of G-D) for Him, always! – SEE Psalms 69:9; John 2:17.
A downward slide to adapt the Bible to man’s own thinking, instead of obeying G-Ds laws as instructed, has been taking shape in the Christian Church for many years and that’s why we are seeing sinful theology being accepted in many churches, in different denominations (and non-denominational churches especially), around the world. And accepting sinful theology that goes against the teachings of the Bible makes people live in sin against G-D and they dishonor G-D in their life, physically, spiritually, emotionally. Therefore, it is very important to revere G-D and His laws in our lives, whether it be a small law in the Bible or a big law of the Bible (SEE Matthew 5:17-20; Matthew 24:35).
Whether the law be in the New Testament or the Old Testament, the law remains, and we must obey them, to be pleasing to G-D our FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRIT, to live sin free, holy, righteous, upright, pure lives in the sight of G-D MOST HIGH, all the days of our lives, through the power of the H-LY SPIRIT Who lives in us.
Adultery (marital infidelity)
No wife should become a desperate housewife and cheat on her husband. This is adultery in G-Ds sight. Nothing is hidden from G-Ds sight, the Bible teaches. No woman is to be a feminist and behave like a man and rule over the man (her husband) in a marriage. This is wrong in G-Ds sight. It is also wrong when the man of the house (the husband) does not lead the marriage, lead the woman, lead his children to walk in G-Ds way and keep the family moving ahead in life. A lack of leadership from the husband is shameful in G-Ds sight.
The gender roles must never be reversed as G-D created man to behave as a man and woman to behave as a woman. If the roles are reversed, then the woman who behaves as a man becomes the head of the house and the husband is submitting to the wife in everything (when the wife has the final say in every matter of the house) and this goes against what the Bible teaches on how marriage is to be in G-Ds sight (SEE Ephesians 5:22-33).
A marriage is to be kept pure and holy in G-Ds sight, for it is sacred in G-Ds sight (SEE Hebrews 13:4). Marriage is the foundation of G-Ds plan for mankind, that a man and a woman will marry and have children in wedlock and not outside of it (no bastard children) – SEE Genesis 2:24. This is why the marriage bed is never to be defiled by adultery.
Adultery is a great sin in the sight of G-D (SEE Exodus 20:14; Hosea 2:2-20). It is one of the original ten commandments given by G-D the FATHER to Moses when the nation of Israel was going to the promised land of Canaan. Adultery brings great shame on the man or the woman, whomever it has been committed against, and greater dishonor to G-D MOST HIGH. No one should cheat on their spouses and destroy the love and trust between a husband and a wife. It is unacceptable to G-D. If there is unfaithfulness in marriage, because of infidelity(s) – by either the husband or the wife, then this has ruined their marriage bed. It is defiled and therefore becomes very hard to mend. Sometimes, it is irreparable, and the marriage is lost forever.
The person who cheated on their spouse becomes the adulterer. When someone lusts after another man’s wife or a woman lusts (desires) after another woman’s husband, then the offender has committed the sin of covetousness, and this is the sin that goes on to cause the sin of adultery (SEE Exodus 20:17). So, adultery is a two-part sin, because adultery is tied in with the sin of covetousness. This means, for every sin of adultery committed, the offending person has committed two sins in the sight of G-D and not just one. It is a double offense! There are other sins involved in the sin of adultery too, but this is just an example of how committing one sin has brought on the dirt of additional sins upon themselves, that would not have normally been associated with it.
And the offending person (man or woman) must prepare to receive from G-D, the punishment due them, for their sin of adultery, and all other sins committed at the time of adultery (1 Corinthians 3:16,17).
That’s why it is very important that every married man must only love his wife and have no desire for other woman in his life, as long as she lives, and every married woman must only have desire for her husband, as long as he lives (SEE Genesis 3:16).
Sexual immorality pollutes the land
When the laws of G-D, as written in the Bible are not followed, then there is complete chaos in society. There is sexual immorality in the land and G-D hates sexual immorality. Sexual immorality pollutes the land, as much as Carbon dioxide (CO2) and Methane (CH4) pollutes the natural environment around us. After sexual immorality, there is no recourse for that nation, that state, that city, that person, than judgement, destruction (for the nation, the state, the city) and punishment (for the individual) from G-D (SEE Jeremiah 23:9-20). Every nation, state, city, individual must repent of their sexual immoral ways – to G-D the FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRIT.
Sexual immorality must not be tolerated in society, anywhere on earth. Sexual sin among mankind creates disharmony, distrust, disrespect, oppression of the poor, broken marriages, broken vows (promises), hurting people, orphaned children, abandoned children, unwanted children (some of whom are aborted), abandoned spouses, hurting fathers, hurting mothers, hurting children, hurting husbands, hurting wives, hurting grandparents, hurting grandchildren, economic/financial hardships in the families that are left in the aftermath of a divorce or separation,….
A good, loving, god-fearing marriage
This is nothing as how G-D intends for man to live. G-D wants harmony and love in every society on earth. And it has to start in the family. A husband and a wife have to love each other, take care of each other, nourish each other, be honest with each other, be able to trust each other, have mutual respect for each other. Ultimately, the husband will have the final say in a matter within the marriage, as the husband is the head of the woman (SEE Ephesians 5:23), and the woman (the man’s wife) is to respect and honor her husband in his decision and submit to him willingly, in everything (SEE Ephesians 5:24), as this is fitting (right ) in the sight of G-D, the Bible teaches us. And if the husband is making a wrong decision(s), then G-D will deal with him, for CHRIST is the head of every man. The man is not above all things, for G-D is above him, always (SEE 1 Corinthians 11:3).
And G-D will teach and correct every man who does not obey Him, His Word, His laws.
When Biblical principles and doctrines are not followed at home, in a marriage, then the man can feel disrespected, a woman can feel unloved, and the marriage can break apart if the husband and wife don’t change and repent of their sinful, selfish ways and live in love with each other, all the days of their life, as the Bible tells them to do.
And when a marriage fails, G-D is dishonored and whoever ended up breaking up the marriage is the responsible guilty party in G-Ds sight. Sometimes, it’s the fault of the man, sometimes, it’s the fault of the woman. It is sad when a marriage fails, for G-D hates divorce, the Bible teaches (SEE Malachi 2:14-17).
Forgiveness of sins within a marriage
If someone sins in a marriage (not adultery or sexual sin) but any other sin – pride, ego, anger, selfish ambitions, deceit, not sharing love, money, possessions,…. and the husband doesn’t forgive the wife, or the wife doesn’t forgive the husband, but instead, the victim goes on to commit greater sins than the perpetrator of the initial sin, then this is the beginning of the breakup of the marriage. Instead, whoever is the perpetrator of the initial sin, must realize they’ve sinned against G-D their FATHER and then their spouse and seek forgiveness from G-D their FATHER first.
Then he/she must seek reconciliation from the other spouse and give his word to his wife that the husband will not repeat the same error/mistake/sin again, against G-D the FATHER and then against his wife. The same applies to the wife, that the wife must seek forgiveness from G-D the FATHER first and seek reconciliation with her husband and give her word to her husband that the wife will not repeat the same error/mistake/sin again, against G-D the FATHER and then against her husband. This is how trust is repaired, and love can bloom again!
Praise the L-RD! There is true hope in CHRIST, in every marriage!
Husbands and wives must love one another (as much as they love themselves!)
When these Biblical principles are not followed, bitterness and hatred begin to grow in a person’s life and the spouses can end up hating each other, because of the lack of empathy toward one another. They lack empathy toward one another, because of a lack of respect and love for one another. And without love and respect for one another, the trust in their marriage is broken and it cannot be repaired, unless they repent of their sins against G-D the FATHER and against their spouse. Any marriage in such a situation is not in a healthy state – it is a dying or dead marriage.
This is not how G-D intends for husbands and wives to live together, never! No husband should hate his own wife, nor should the wife hate her husband. If they say they are Christians, they must humbly love each other, always (SEE 1 Corinthians 13), till the end of their lives – no separation, no divorce! And everyone who says they are Christians must obey JESUS’s teachings and show evidence of their love for one another (and never fake/feign their love for one another) – for G-D sees the heart of every man and G-D will judge those who live in deceit and hypocrisy against Him and against one another, the Bible teaches (SEE John 14:15,21,23,24; SEE Ecclesiastes 4:7-12). Husbands and wives must learn to love each other in the love of CHRIST, to have good, healthy, happy marriages – SEE John 13:34,35; 1 John 4:19-21.
JESUS is at the center of our lives, at the center of every marriage
Two is better than one, the Bible teaches – therefore, companionship is good thing. That’s why G-D gave Eve to Adam, because he wanted companionship in life. So, marriage is good in G-Ds sight. It is good when a man and woman want to get married and live as husband and wife. And G-D will bless the children they have together in their marriage, if and when they decide to have any children. G-D will accept the children the husband and wife have together in marriage, and they will be good Christian family in the presence of the L-RD.
Marriage is good, but not cohabitation. Cohabitation is sin in the sight of G-D and any children born in such a relationship is born a bastard child, because the man and the woman are not married in G-Ds sight. And the bastard child is cursed by G-D for not being born within marriage (SEE Deuteronomy 23:2). The curses on that bastard child will be removed when the child accepts JESUS as His L-RD and Savior and becomes a Christian believer in CHRIST.
Courtship (dating)
When a woman and a man like each other, they can mutually agree to date each other. But the courtship should not involve any sexual intimacy of any form. This is because, any sexual activity outside of marriage is prohibited in the Bible. Only once the couple get married can they consummate their marriage and not before.
No man or woman should be tempted to live in sexual sin before marriage, especially when dating. It will still count as sin against them in the sight of G-D, for any sins committed against their bodies, as the man and the woman are not considered husband and wife in G-Ds sight. Only once they are married in G-Ds sight, in the presence of at least two witnesses, will they be considered as husband and wife.
Then, the newly wedded couple can enjoy each other through sexual intimacy, for the rest of their lives together.
This is the right way to date someone in the 21st century. Sexual encounters (promiscuity, fornication), or worse, one-night stands, are not the way to get to know someone, to prepare for married life. This is sexual immorality in G-Ds sight, and no Christian should participate in such activities, ever. If they have ever done so, they should repent to G-D of all their sins and ask for forgiveness from G-D the FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRIT. Then, they must have self-control over their bodies, put away lust from their hearts, focus on following JESUS and obeying all His Words, all His laws, and live to sin no more as such anymore.
No Christian woman should date any Christian man who wants to be sexually active before marriage. If the man proposes to be sexually active when dating, he is not the man to get married to. Run away from him and save your soul from a doomed marriage!
Do not marry a any man or any woman has been divorced because of “irreconcilable differences” or “no fault divorce,” – unless and until you know that their divorced spouse is no longer alive. A Christian man or Christian woman can only date or marry a divorced person, if:
- Their date’s previous marriage ended because of marital infidelity, and the marital infidelity was not the caused by the person whom they are dating or thinking of dating or marrying
- Their divorced spouse has died
If a Christian dates or marries a person who is divorced and the person that got was divorced was because of irreconcilable differences or no-fault divorce, then the Christian man or woman is committing adultery, being sexually immoral and polluting the land with sexual immorality, in the sight of G-D, the Bible teaches.
Do not marry or date a person who already has a wife or a husband. This is also considered adultery in G-Ds sight. Do no choose to be a man’s second or third wife, or his mistress/girlfriend (for the women). These are all forms of adultery. Polygamy is not permitted in the Bible. Each man and woman are to have only one wife or husband at a time, not multiple wives or multiple husbands at a time.
Don’t get married for the sake of getting married and then get divorced later on (in a few days, in a few weeks, in a few months, in a few years) if you think your marriage doesn’t suit you anymore, or you have second thoughts about the spouse you married. He/she is not who you thought he/she would be, and you don’t want to be with them anymore. No, that’s not enough reason to get divorced or separate from a marriage in G-Ds sight. That’s why it’s very important that you marry the right person in life. Don’t ever get married to the wrong person and regret it later on in life. It would be too late to fix anything by then.
Because Christian marriage is meant for life. It is not for you to say yes to being his/her spouse for a few years (because you were in “love” with him/her then) and a season (or many seasons) later, you stop wanting to being his/her spouse anymore, because you’ve fallen out of love with them. This is not Biblical thinking; this is not Biblical living. Don’t say, your marriage is too difficult for you, and you don’t feel like it participating in it anymore – because you’ve fallen out of love with your spouse. No, this is absolutely wrong thinking. This is absolutely unbiblical thinking. There is no reason to get married to someone in the first place, if this is going to be the case with you or your spouse in a few years. Good marriage is about commitment and lifelong commitment, not a temporary commitment.
Good marriage is about sincere and deep love for each other – it is a lifelong love, not a temporary love.
Good marriage is about mutual respect and trust in each other, for a lifetime – it is not a temporary respect and trust for each other.
If you knowingly marry someone to dump them later on, or divorce them later on, then you knowingly deceived them and betrayed them – their love, trust and respect for you and the sanctity of your marriage. This will be counted as sin against you, for these are great sins in the sight of G-D MOST HIGH. And there are serious consequences to living in sin like this. G-D the FATHER will not tolerate such sinful behavior from man.
Biblical marriage is for life
Biblical marriage lasts for the entirety of the duration of your life or your spouse’s life. That’s how G-D designed it. It is not a phase in your life that you can say to someone, let’s live together. And if things go bad in the marriage or a spouse is unhappy in the marriage, then you or your spouse chooses to stop living together and runs away (abandons, quits the marriage). Then the separation between the husband and wife occurs and thoughts of divorce enter some people’s minds. And then a spouse thinks, I will marry someone else after getting divorced from my current spouse and be happy in life again with someone new. No, this is very wrong. No, this is not how a Christian should ever think or live! This is sexual immorality. This is considered as sin in the Bible. This is adultery in G-Ds sight.
There are no “irreconcilable differences” clause in Biblical Christian marriage to get divorced in G-Ds sight. The only cause for divorce is marital infidelity – defilement of the marriage bed. The marriage bed is sacred and holy in G-Ds sight, the Bible teaches – that’s why G-D hates divorce, that’s why G-D hates marital infidelity.
If any spouse has cheated on their trusted and beloved spouse they married – the husband of her youth (for the wife) and the wife of his youth (for the husband), then it is okay to divorce. Otherwise, no.
The only cause for separation of a married couple is because of abuse or mistreatment of any kind (physical abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse) by a spouse to the victim spouse. Other reasons include: a lack of financial support to the wife and to their home by the husband, neglect of intimacy duties by a spouse due the other spouse – as desired and agreed upon mutually by both the husband and the wife.
If there is a separation in marriage, seek reconciliation as soon as possible. Work things out together in love, in forgiveness, in gentleness, with G-Ds help in the marriage and don’t get divorced. Let G-D be the uniting factor in your marriage – not children, not the wealth, not parents, not the tax benefits, not any other perks.
Anyone who divorced his/her spouse cannot marry the same spouse again, even if you wanted to – it is a sin in the sight of G-D the FATHER (SEE Deuteronomy 24:1-4). And if a marriage ended in divorce because of a “no fault” divorce or “irreconcilable differences” clause, then, both spouses cannot get married again, until one of them dies (SEE Matthew 5:31,32; Matthew 19:3-10)
Citing “irreconcilable differences” to get divorced means, there was no marital infidelity in the marriage, but just that “the couple were not compatible” with each other and so, they decided to end their marriage. But this is not an acceptable, Biblical reason, to get divorced, the Bible teaches. Therefore, if a spouse from the marriage or both spouses get married again after such their divorce, they are committing sexually immorality in the land. They are living adulterous lives, individually. This is a great sin in the sight of G-D the FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRIT. Don’t be fooled, the Bible is very clear about it and repeatedly talks against such practices.
Date to get married, not to be sexually immoral. Go on a few dates and with a potential spouse – but have no sexual contact with each other. See if the potential spouse is good for you as a spouse – in terms of having good Christian character, good Christian behavior, good Christian attitude, good Christian morals, good Christian ethics, good Christian principles and doctrines, good Christian faith. The potential spouse is one who reads the Bible daily, prays daily, sings to JESUS and worships G-D daily, serves the L-RD in his/her life, loves JESUS with all their heart, soul, strength and mind and stands firm in his/her beliefs in the Bible.
Pray about the potential spouse whom you plan to date, and seek G-Ds counsel first and foremost, above all things – even before dating. Only if G-D agrees on you dating this person, then continue to date him/her. Otherwise, stop dating them immediately. When dating, seek G-Ds guidance again and seek His will above all things in life, to see if you should marry this person. If G-D approves of the person, and approves you getting married together, then get engaged quickly and set a wedding date for the near future. Don’t prolong the wedding date and keep dating – it will lead to sexual immorality if the couple are not self-disciplined to control their sexual desires for one another. No sex or sexual activity before marriage, even when engaged!
If G-D disapproves of the one you are dating, or disapproves of him/her for marriage, then stop dating immediately. Don’t fall in love with the person and get married and go against G-Ds will for your life. It will not turn out well in the long run. Rather hurt now that two or five or ten years from now, especially later. And if there are children born in marriage, then more people will get hurt later on, if there are problems in the marriage.
G-D is smarter and wiser than all of mankind put together, for all of time. So, don’t think you are smarter and wiser than G-Ds decisions for your life, ever. Don’t think, if G-D says to you, do not date someone or marry someone, but you go against G-Ds will for your life and do it anyway – because you think you know better down the line than G-D does. You are asking for serious problems later on in your life, if you don’t obey G-D now. Don’t cry to G-D many years from now and say, “I’m sorry L-RD, I should have obeyed your advice and not dated this person, not married this person.” It would be too late for you by then and the problems in your marriage could hurt you and others around you badly. Don’t let that happen to you!
Don’t trust your heart, it is deceptive the Bible teaches. Trust in G-D alone.
Don’t trust man, trust G-D (SEE Jeremiah 17:5-10).
G-D will never betray you – He is a faithful G-D, now and forever, Amen.
A man can betray you any time, any day, anywhere. Don’t be fooled.
Submit, surrender your will and obey G-D always, above all things and people in life
Your happiness (pleasures, desires, wants, lusts, greed) in life are not greater than obeying G-Ds Words (the Bible) and G-Ds will for your life. Don’t go down the wrong pathway and deviate from G-Ds plans for your life – knowingly or unknowingly, and live in sin against G-D the FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRIT.
Don’t let G-D compete for your love for Him, with someone else you love. Your love for G-D should be above all things and people in life – this is the first and greatest commandment in the Bible. Then only shall you love yourself and your neighbor (SEE Matthew 22:36-40). Don’t love your husband, wife, father, mother, children, siblings, family, relatives, job, money, country, church, land, education, health, pets, animals, nature, possessions,….above G-D. This should never be.
First G-D, then everyone else, including yourself.
This is true surrender and submission to G-D the FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRIT. This is showing true discipline in life, trusting in G-D above your own feelings, wants and desires (lusts, carnal nature of man) and being a self-controlled disciple and servant of G-D MOST HIGH. Forgo such temptations in life, for the glory, honor and praise of G-D the FATHER in your life. For such servants of G-D who practice so in their lives, there is great reward in Heaven for them, the Bible teaches us.
It is more important to please G-D the FATHER than please yourself or please someone else in your life (SEE Galatians 1:10). Make G-D first in your life always, above all things and people’s in life and then only everyone and everything else in life – including, your own husband, wife, father, mother, children, siblings, family, relatives, job, money, country, church, land, education, health, pets, animals, nature, possessions,….
Submit, surrender and obey G-Ds will for your life and all will be well with you, the Bible teaches. Trust in G-D and lean not own your own understanding (SEE Proverbs 3:5-7). You will have great reward in Heaven, even if you face trials and tribulations in this life, for choosing to obey G-D rather than seeking your own desires and trying to accomplish your plans for your life.
Don’t be selfish and go against G-Ds Words and G-Ds plans for your life, just because you don’t feel like obeying G-D now and the plans He has for you (SEE Isaiah 55:6-9). It would be a great mistake. Don’t fall into temptation. Flee temptation to sin and instead, obey G-D, His Words and His laws, always (SEE James 1:12-16).
A housewife or a businesswoman
A woman can work if the husband wants her to. If a husband doesn’t want his wife to work but wants his wife to be a homemaker (housewife) and take care of their home and their children, then she should obey her husband in this matter and give up her career, her pursuit of education or any other activities, or her selfish ambitions and submit to do the will of the husband, as the Bible commands. This is acceptable in a Christian marriage, if the husband so desires this of his wife.
It is better for the wife to be a homemaker than for the wife to work and earn the money of greed and illegal gain. The illegal gain (money earned) will not last and her disobedience to her husband’s wishes will be counted as sin against the wife by G-D the FATHER, because the wife went against her husband’s desires for their marriage.
This is why the Bible commands wives to submit to their husbands in everything, in love, to keep the unity in the marriage. The husband is the head of the wife and CHRIST is the head of the man, the Bible teaches. Therefore, the wife has to respect the wishes of the husband, even if she disagrees with Him. When the wife does this, because she loves G-D MOST HIGH and lives in the fear of JESUS, then the wife will have great reward in Heaven from G-D her FATHER, because she obeyed the Words of G-D than pursuing her own selfish ambitions. This is the wife showing true humility and surrender to G-Ds Words, in the sight of G-D. There is no shame in it for the wife, for G-D sees her submission to her husband’s wishes and G-D will honor her and bless her for it, for her obedience to her husband.
The only exception is that the wife should not live in sin by obeying her husband’s wishes. A wife should have good discernment and wisdom to know if her husband is telling her the truth, to do something that is acceptable in G-Ds sight, or not. If her husband is not telling her the truth, and manipulating her and taking advantage of her, as being the head of her in the marriage, then there is no reason for the wife to obey her husband and sin against G-D her FATHER. The wife must not do something that the Bible already says not to do (or condemns as sin, as illegal). This is the right of every wife to take a stand for G-D and not sin against the Words of G-D, even if the husband disagrees with her.
The Words of G-D are greater than the words/instructions of her husband. A wife should not fall victim to false coercion by her husband, to carry out the selfish desires of her husband, all in the name of submission to her husband and using the Words of the Bible against her, to get/have his way in their marriage. This is not true love by the husband for his wife. This is not the husband honoring his wife, as the Bible teaches the husband to do. This form of manipulation/blackmail (emotional, physical, spiritual) by the husband will be considered as sin against him by G-D the FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRIT.
If a wife really desires to work, then she can start her own business, instead of going to work for an employer, if her husband agrees. She can be an entrepreneur (business owner) or freelancer. And the money she can earn can do good for her family. This is how the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31:10-31 is described doing. But a wife must never neglect her husband and her children as she runs her business. Her business must never cause stress or strain in her marriage and hurt her relationship with G-D the FATHER, her husband and her children. If it does, then the business must be shut down, because it is causing strife and disharmony in a marriage and no marriage should break apart because of money, or the love of money or selfish ambitions (SEE 1 Timothy 6:6-10; Philippians 2:3,4).
A good Christian woman can learn to manage a good home and a good business, with the help of G-D, and this is honorable in G-Ds sight – this is what Proverbs 31:10-31 shows us.
The wife must obey and submit to her husband in all things in life
A woman must live under the authority of man always, the Bible teaches. No woman is above man. Before a woman is married, she is under the headship (authority figure) of her father. And once she is married, she is under the headship (authority) of her husband.
Biblical laws of Divorce
If a woman divorces the husband, then the woman goes back to the headship of her father (if he is still alive) – SEE 1 Corinthians 7:36-38. If the father is not alive in her life, and if her mother is alive, then the woman is under the authority of her mother, for she is back as a child under her mother. Her mother is a parent guardian in G-Ds sight (even though she might be an adult woman) – SEE Exodus 20:12. And if there are no parents of the woman alive, then she is under the authority of G-D her FATHER (1 Corinthians 7:39,40), to live and do as the Bible teaches, and not living in sin or committing adultery or fornication outside of her former married life.
A divorced woman must not marry another man, unless her first marriage ended in divorce because of marital infidelity, and she wasn’t the one who committed the sin of adultery in her marriage. It must be that the infidelity was not caused by the woman (i.e. it was her ex-husband’s infidelity that caused the marriage to break apart) – SEE Matthew 5:31,32. Only in this scenario can a divorced woman marry again. And when she is married a second time, she comes back under the authority of man again, her second husband, as long as he lives.
If for any other reason than this, if a divorced woman marries again, she is living in an adulterous relationship, and this is sin in the sight of G-D the FATHER. This is practicing sexual immorality in the land. This is polluting the land with sexual immorality and G-D hates it. G-D hates sexual immorality, the Bible teaches (1 Corinthians 6:9,15-20; Galatians 5:16-21).
Every woman is allowed to marry again after the death of her husband, if she so desires (1 Corinthians 7:39).
Sexual purity and freedom from sexual immorality
Every man and woman are to remain chaste (a virgin) till marriage and remain celibate after a marriage ends, the Bible teaches. Sex outside of marriage is sin, this is called fornication (SEE 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8; Acts 15:19,20; Matthew 15:18-20). Sex within marriage is appropriate and husbands and wives are to enjoy each other’s bodies in marriage. This is the right of every husband and wife in G-Ds sight (SEE Song of Solomon 4; Song of Solomon 5:1; 1 Corinthians 7:4,5).
Be pure, holy and righteous in G-Ds sight, the Bible teaches. Every act of sexual immorality makes a man and a woman impure in G-Ds sight. Every man and woman who commits sexual immorality [before marriage (fornication, promiscuity); during marriage (adultery); after marriage (adultery, fornication, promiscuity)] is far away from G-D the FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRIT and does not honor G-D in their lives, in their bodies. They are not holy in G-Ds sight as He expects them to be, but they are impure. They are not true Christians as the Bible teaches them to live as. And without holiness, we cannot see G-D our FATHER, the Bible teaches (SEE 2 Corinthians 5:9-11; 2 Timothy 2:21,22; Hebrews 12:14-17).
Love, fear and obey G-D, His Word and His laws above all things in life
Every woman must love and fear G-D above all things in her life and obey all of G-Ds laws and His Word, as written in the Bible, always. For everyone will bow to JESUS, worship Him and acknowledge G-D and His laws one day in life, whether they like it or not, whether they believe in JESUS or not (SEE Philippians 2:9-16).
Knowing this, every woman must desire to be a good Christian woman in the sight of G-D, all the days of her life. And when she gets married, she can be a good Christian wife to her husband, and also a good Christian mother to her children, all the days of her life. In the same way, every man must love and fear G-D above all things in life and obey all of G-Ds laws and His Word, as written in the Bible, always. Then he will be a good Christian man in the sight of G-D, and he can be a good Christian husband to his wife, and a good Christian father to his children, all the days of his life. This is what intends for every man and every man in society, and this is the ideal marriage as stipulated by G-D, for husbands and wives to have with each other in their marriages.
Reconciliation of marriage in CHRIST through prayer and meditation of G-Ds Word
If any marriage is not going as intended, then it is time the couple turn to G-D and seek Him and set aside everything in their lives that are causing the hurt in their marriage. Let them read the Bible and pray together every day. Then let them read the Bible and pray individually. Let each one hear G-Ds voice and repent to G-D the FATHER of all their sins and live in sin no more against G-D the FATHER and then each other.
Let all husbands and wives love each other, as much as they love themselves, and do good to each other in the love of CHRIST, all the days of their lives (SEE Mark 12:29-31; Luke 6:31). Let every man and every woman love G-D above all things in life and find in Him, their all in all, above whatever their expectations are of their spouses. So that, in times of a shortfall, there should be no blame game between a husband and a wife. Instead, let all husbands and wives, in love, in gentleness, correct one another as needed, and learn from each one’s past mistakes and live to sin no more against G-D the FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRT and then, not sin against each other anymore.
Do not destroy the unity of the SPIRIT within the marriage. Do not destroy the unity of the SPIRIT within the family (SEE Ephesians 4:1-5; Philippians 2:1,2).
Let every man and every woman realize and respect G-D and know that only G-D the FATHER, His Son JESUS and the H-LY SPIRIT are perfect in all their ways. So, whenever a husband or a wife sins against G-D and against a spouse, let the perpetrator and the victim be quick to ask for forgiveness and forgive the sinner, just as G-D forgives us every day of our sins. Let no sin be held against each other, overnight, and the problem fester into a larger problem the next day. Be merciful to each other every day and start each new day afresh, not thinking about yesterday’s sins. Forgive one another and move on in life and choose to love each other every day.
Love each other sincerely and deeply, the Bible teaches us (SEE Romans 9:9-11,16-18,21; 1 Peter 4:8-11). And forgive each other (SEE Ephesians 4:30-32), to move on peaceably with each other in marriage. Do this every day, for the rest of your lives together and no marriage will ever break apart in JESUS’s great and mighty Name, Amen!
Do not idolize your marriage or your spouse or your children
Do not idolize your spouse or your marriage or your children and put them on a podium, above your relationship with your Maker and worship them, instead of worshiping your G-D. This is sin in the sight of G-D. No marriage is above your relationship with G-D the FATHER. First G-D, then your husband or wife, and then the children. Not the other way around.
It is not the children first and the spouse the second and last G-D. Nor is it the spouse first and then G-D, no! This is incorrect order of the hierarchy. If anyone is living in such a marriage, then they are not honoring and loving G-D above all things in life, as He commands us to, and this can create problems in the marriage later on.
The Bible teaches to seek first the Kingdom of G-D above all things, and the things of G-D, including G-D the FATHER Himself (SEE Matthew 6:33). Then only your spouse, your children, your household, your extended family, your work, your country, your friends,….(in this order).
Learn good Christian discipline, have self-control over your thoughts, your actions, your behavior, your attitude, your body and walk in G-Ds ways always, day and night, night and day. Then you will not stray from the Light (lit pathway) of G-D, His Word and His laws given to us, for our benefit, as written in the Bible, for all our days here on earth (SEE Joshua 1:7-9).
Praise the L-RD!
SEE song 1: “JESUS paid it all, all to Him I owe” – by Kim Walker-Smith – [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWPC4clWLbQ].
SEE song 2: “JESUS L-RD, my best love Thou art” – by NYCYPCD – [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wgaCaGfKcG4].
